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Patgreat
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# Posted: 27 Jun 2017 09:22am
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Over the years i have made very good friends with my neighbors at my cabin. No one up there is full time, they are all weekend warriors like myself. Its funny over the years i have become better friends with my neighbors at the cabin than people i have grown up with. Its makes going to the cabin that much better, knowing there are people to hang out with, help me with a project or just sit around a camp fire and talk to. In fact this Saturday we are having a big 4th of July BBQ with about 6 cabins that are close by. We are all bringing a dish and going to have a food fest.
Anyone else build relationship or make friends with their cabin neighbors? Its something i never planned on doing, i used to stay away from people up there so i would not be bothered, but now its hard to imagine going up there and not hanging out!
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Smawgunner
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# Posted: 27 Jun 2017 12:27pm
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Absolutely! I know my cabin neighbors better than I do my own neighbors who live within 100 yards of me.
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Cowracer
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# Posted: 27 Jun 2017 12:43pm
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The lady next to us lives there full time and she is an absolute jewel.
I'm funny, but I make a clear distinction between friends and neighbors. I am friendly with all my neighbors at the house, but we are not friends. We chat, we know each others kids, we loan tools or give a hand if help is needed, but I don't "hang out" with them. I have never been in their houses, and they have never been in mine in the 17 years we have lived there.
Same at the lake. Our neighbor lady comes over and chats, I and we always invite her over for our big group meals. But I wouldn't call her a friend in the usual sense of the word.
Now the idiot across the street at the lake is another story. Younger guy (maybe early 30's) and if you Google "Dude Bro" you will see exactly the type he is. In his eyes he is "extreme" and "parties hard" where in my eyes he's just a loud, obnoxious drunk. Thing is, he came into some serious money (like damn near a million) over some settlement. I give him 3-4 years before he is broke as hell again.
Other than that, we really have no 'neighbors' at the cabin. All the surrounding lots have owners, but in 5 years, we have never even seen them.
Tim
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hueyjazz
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# Posted: 28 Jun 2017 11:59am
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One of the fears we had of buying our cabin and property was the neighbors. While no one is right on top of us the last thing we wanted was someone play Rap or Hip Hop into the wee hours of the morning. Four days a week we live in a city near a major university and park. Traffic, music and drunken dullards just come with the scene. This is what we were escaping.
To our delight, our neighbors at the land are great. One of which has become a solid friend. A few of them took a while to melt the ice with as previous owner of property was a tad opinionated and alienated a few of the landowners.
Well my wife is sugar and I add the spice so we melted them and now have a great relationship. I've been able to mobilize a work crew to fix the common private road. Something that was neglected and needed work but no one was stepping up. I bought so loads of stone to kick it off. Not a huge expense as the rock quarry is only six miles away. All that could contributed and even surprised me. One haul in a tractor with bucket and drag that made the effort much easier.
We have often shared meals, beers, and hunt together. We share a radio frequency for safety while hunting. We are several miles from any medical facility so I let them know I have advanced medical training and keep a stocked EMT bag. My good buddy just North of even has a key to my place.
It is a great situation as we watch out for each other and communicate. I'm the only one that goes up there in the winter every weekend. I let them know of any event good or bad and take measure to minimize any damage.
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MntGoat
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# Posted: 28 Jun 2017 09:52pm
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I socialize enough Monday through Friday and I'd rather be left alone at camp.
Having said that, I have 3 different friends who have camps within 5 miles so we socialize in our circle.
My significant other is a bit different. She seeks out people to talk with and enjoys that sort of thing. I am friendly with all neighboring land owners and we get along well. I still building so perhaps after I finish I will feel differently.
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UPLIBERTY
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# Posted: 29 Jun 2017 07:53pm
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I have neighbors on both sides of us with some space and another couple down the road. We talk in the yards and I have had a little help from both when I was building and putting in a boat dock. All are very nice people and ready to lend a hand, but we are not best friends so to speak. 2 of the 3 neighbors live there year round. The elderly couple closes to us are snow birds, but we are friendliest with them as they knew my grandfather well from 40 years ago. Nice connection to have really.
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Borrego
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# Posted: 2 Jul 2017 04:57pm
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Good topic! Like many of you, we go to our remote property to be left alone, not to socialize...however, once we starting meeting some neighbors, we found most of them to be delightful people and many have become close friends. Something about sharing the same dreams (building and being in the middle of nowhere) seems to make people think alike and act alike, etc...
So we have people wander by for a beer, or to see if we need help with anything, all the time...not too much so we don't want the company, it's just about right......
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black_raven
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# Posted: 26 Sep 2017 12:46pm
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My neighbours on one side are full time off grid...and great people. They watch over my place when i'm not there and their dogs keep the bears and coyotes away. I usually drop by to say hi and have a beer with a couple neighbours and just to find out what is new around the lake. Being in the Land o' lakes region there are sometimes interesting stories! So probably 15 minutes with each neighbour...then it's work time
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Nicholas666
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# Posted: 29 Nov 2017 10:43am
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I'm lucky to have good neighbours, thouh I can't call of them my friends.
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Wilbour
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# Posted: 29 Nov 2017 09:54pm
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I bought my property with solitude in mind but that changed when I met my neighbour. We were like minded and got along great. Was nice sharing a campfire with him. Had plans on doing some hiking in the next year or so.
Then suddenly he passed away when he and his wife were building a full fledged home on their land. She is staying with the plan and is an infrequent visitor to the home.
Never thought loosing someone was so painful. It makes the cabin a lot more lonely now that he's gone.
I'm not comfortable spending much time with his widow, it's just not the same.
Miss my buddy
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creeky
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# Posted: 1 Dec 2017 02:56pm
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Hey Wilbour. Sorry to hear about your friend. All the best.
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naturelover66
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# Posted: 1 Dec 2017 05:53pm
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So sorry for your loss Wilbour.
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Wilbour
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# Posted: 1 Dec 2017 11:15pm
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Thanks for the condolences folks, didn't mean to redirect the original post.
It does speak to the total experience when you have good neighbours who are like minded.
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toyota_mdt_tech
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# Posted: 3 Dec 2017 11:31am - Edited by: toyota_mdt_tech
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Like everyone here, we like the peace and quiet. But after meeting other locals and weekenders with cabins, I have become friends with many and enjoy their company. We talk cabin stuff, share progress, ideas, give suggestions etc. Rule of thumb in the areas is "if my gate is open, stop by and visit' and "if its closed, respect my privacy". I usually open my gate first thing in the AM, make a run to the gate with the Kawasaki Mule and open it up. Close it well after sunset. I have to be careful, we have free ranging cattle and I don't want them to get penned inside my fence. So if I see cattle ranging close, will close it behind me.
Wilbour, sorry to hear about your good cabin pal. 
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KinAlberta
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# Posted: 5 Nov 2022 08:57pm - Edited by: KinAlberta
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Great neighbours around our place. Always enjoy it when they come by or I run into them. (Unfortunately, so far, they’ve helped me out far more than I’ve helped them.)
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Fanman
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# Posted: 6 Nov 2022 04:56pm
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About half of our neighbors at our cabin are the kids I grew up with, or in a few cases, my parent's generation (though there aren't many of the older generation left). They either never left, or like me came back after being away for 20 years or so. It's a sense of community and continuity that's rare nowadays.
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Nobadays
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# Posted: 6 Nov 2022 11:01pm
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Quoting: Fanman It's a sense of community and continuity that's rare nowadays.
This kind of represents how our area is... mainly among those of us who spend 6 months or more a year up here. We have a smoker so three times this year we smoked meat, 2 x 14 pound briskets and another time several racks of ribs. Both brisket were given to us to smoke and share. All three meals there were 12+ neighbors here. Fun! Lots of sharing equipment, labor and materials. An Amish business where the pavement ends allows us all to ship our packages there, so if someone goes to town they always stop to see if packages need brought up. Often we get a text... or text folks up here from town to see if anything is needed. Being 32 miles from the nearest town (2 small grocery stores) and 50 from the bigger town has it's challenges but also blessings.
Not all peaches and cream... we have a lot of folks that are up here 1-3 weeks a year, but many have owned places up here for 20+ unfortunately, many of them think they "own" the place. This can lead to summer drama. We keep to ourselves much of the time, really don't know a lot of the "vacationers" and don't really want to. Certainly don't want to be a part of their drama!
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